There’s this girl I’m friends with who I had a really big crush on.
My obvious displays of affection might have annoyed her but she was actually really nice to me the day I finally worked up the courage to tell her how I felt, a year and a half ago.
She’ll end up resenting you for keeping her from exploring a relationship with this guy, and just because he can’t have her doesn’t mean he’ll suddenly decide to start liking you. But you can’t be expected to watch them be all lovey-dovey around you either.
Have a frank conversation with your friend about your feelings.
I have noticed though that they send long texts to each other, my friend mentions times they hung out one-on-one and the other day, my friend made a birthday reminders list and put a “heart” next to her name.3) I feel really betrayed by my friend but at the same time, I realize that my friend has nothing to apologize for.
It’s been almost two years since I got rejected by this girl so my statute of limitations on “who gets dibs” has certainly expired. Besides, this girl said she didn’t want me and I have to respect that.
When the two of you make plans, her boy needs to bow out.
Now if your friend wants to date your ex, as in a guy you actually a relationship with, you may need to draw the line.
Not to mention, she still acts very "friendly" to me. Do I have any options, or do I have to just suck it up for their sake? What about the option where you hire a dude to kill your friend and make it look like an accident, and then mack in on his grieving girlfriend, only to be thwarted by the restless spirit of your now-dead friend, who has employed a charlatan psychic from Brooklyn to help expose the truth behind his death and... That's not an option, it's the plot of a ridiculous early 1990s movie called . And obviously, there's a useful lesson here about how the only way to know for sure if a person is interested in you is to ask that person yourself—and how, as you have just found out in the most unpleasant possible way, the failure to be assertive can really bite you on the buttocks. "—it's like you've forgotten the part where the "that" in question is another human being. She's got thoughts and feelings and preferences, too, and she made a choice to pursue your friend as much as he made a choice to pursue her.Or in other words, they're not a couple due to your hesitation.They're a couple because they like each other; whether or not you missed the chance to date this girl yourself is beside the point, and more than that, it's a mystery.And even though I’ve always been a confident girl, I’d be lying if I said I don’t care what people think -- because clearly I was striving for bae’s best friend to see the best version of me, too. “It’s normal to fixate and ‘crush’, in a sense, on your partner’s best friend,” explains Sameera Sullivan, relationship expert, psychologist, and founder of Lasting Connections. The two of you likely share similar interests, values, and even personality traits.“You want to make a good, lasting impression on him so he tells your boyfriend that you’re attractive, fun, and the greatest girl he’s ever dated. Your boo has chosen his ride-or-die for the same reasons and commonalities.